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Meet the parents.

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For weeks, I had envisioned how the first time meeting the intended parents (IPs) would go over in my mind. We would shake hands. No, we would hug. But not for too long. I would probably be overly bubbly but also try to play it cool for Matt who would most certainly be sweating buckets of apprehension. We would have light conversation but not get too personal. We certainly never would discuss politics, religion, or any of those awkward topics. I wouldn’t say anything stupid… who am I kidding, of course I would say something stupid. And when it came time for the bill, I would pretend as though I’m about to pay but knowing damn well that they are going to insist that they pay. I’d show immense gratitude, go in for another hug and that’s that. Ok, let’s do this. On Sunday we picked up the rental car reserved by the surrogacy agency. I listened to murder podcasts the entire way down which in retrospect DEFINITELY added to my heightened anxiety. Well that and the fact that Matt co...
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Medical screening date

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I don't have much to update except I now have an official medical screening date! October 7th. So what exactly does that mean? I'm not entirely sure...yet. What I do know is that the clinic hoped to schedule it even earlier and I wasn't prepared to do that both mentally and physically. All my research states that you want your uterus lining thickness to be at least 7mm and birth control implants tend to cause your lining to be thinner. So, the longer you wait until after your implant has been removed, the better. I also wasn't in the right headspace to start this process that soon. I have since joined a surrogacy facebook support group which has helped ease my nerves a ton and I can now confidently say I am mentally prepared for what's to come. Matt will also  be accompanying me on this adventure. We have rented a car and booked a hotel in Stamford, CT (at the expense of our IPs). The clinic the IPs use is called New England Fertility Clinic and all the reviews...
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The Matching Process

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I’ve been matched! This part of the process is truly so beautiful. The agency I am working with has years of experience to make sure the couple you are matched with is a good fit. They use my answers to the psychological test combined with their notes on my general demeanor and personality collected via the screening calls to pair me with a couple (also known as the intended parents or IPs). This couple goes through a similar process in order to get matched with the surrogate. The IPs receive a profile of only one potential surrogate with photos and a bio that meets their requirements and matches their lifestyle. For example, during the screening process I was asked if I would be comfortable terminating a pregnancy at the IPs request due to abnormalities, down syndrome, etc. Despite my internal struggle to agree to this clause, ultimately I felt it was not my choice here. This is their child and I cannot make that decision for them. I also requested for a couple t...
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The beginning.

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I've sat here for over 10 minutes trying to type out the words that are going through my head. I don't know where to begin, so this post might seem jumbled and chaotic and I apologize for that. But it's important for me to write down the steps of this remarkable journey I'm about to embark on. I've decided to become a surrogate. What you're looking at here is a  negative  pregnancy test that was required of me before going forward  It started as a New Year's resolution of sorts. How can I make an impact on this world? How can I make more money and pay off my student loans? How can I give back to someone in need? My sister mentioned that I should become a surrogate. I laughed it off.  But I was intrigued. Fast forward to April 2019. It's my birthday month. I'm now debating making a big move for year 31. I'm either donating a kidney to help my aunt who is suffering from kidney failure orrrr I'm becoming a surrogate. I cont...
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